The Small Glimmer of Resistance
Sometimes healing begins in the most uncomfortable places — in that sharp flicker of resistance when someone challenges the way we’ve always seen ourselves or the world. I call it the small glimmer of “fuck you.” It’s not cruelty, but disruption, and often it’s the first crack in the walls we’ve built around our lives.
On the Obsession with Progress
I’ve noticed how often we measure ourselves against an invisible standard of “progress.” Patients worry they’re not changing fast enough, or that circling the same themes means they’re failing. But therapy isn’t a straight climb upward. Growth is messy, cyclical, and often quiet. What looks like stasis is sometimes deep integration. Repetition isn’t failure—it’s how we turn experience into meaning.
Quieting Your Inner Critic
The importance of being mindful of oneself cannot be overstated. This practice of self-awareness is a cornerstone of personal growth and development. It allows us to delve into our thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations, offering a clearer understanding of our behaviours and reactions. By being attuned to our emotions, we gain the ability to regulate them more effectively, reducing stress and promoting emotional intelligence. Mindfulness also empowers us to make wiser decisions, fostering self-compassion and self-acceptance. It encourages personal growth through introspection and self-reflection while enhancing our relationships with others through improved communication and empathy. Ultimately, being mindful of oneself is not just a tool for self-improvement but a gateway to a more fulfilling and meaningful life.
